Did you know that the healing power of crystals can balance and clear out obstacles in your physical and mental body?

 

Do you desire to create an abundant and healthy mindset and home?

 

Have you always been fascinated by which crystals are best for your own personal growth, whether it be for love, relationships, healing, abundance, peace, etc?

 

If so, join me for an entire day of crystals, clearing, grids, healing, attracting abundance, love and so much MORE!!

Crystal therapy is a gentle method of healing which harmonizes the mind, body, emotions and spirit.  When used properly you can clear out negativity, learn how to protect yourself, your home and learn how to attract positive vibes.

You will learn:

• How to properly choose and work with your own specific crystal(s).
• Various methods of clearing, programming, and activating the powerful energy.
• Basic grid work for opening the energetic pathways within the body to allow healthy energy to flow freely.
• How to construct a grid for healing yourself and others.
• Master the properties of a pertinent crystal healing set in which you will be able to balance your energy field immediately. 
• Learn how to use a pendulum to assess your own personal energy field in your sacred space 

Details:

Date:  Saturday, June 6th

Time – 10 AM – 4PM EST – 

Please feel free to have snacks, light food and water during the duration of the class

Schedule:

10- 11:30 am – 

Opening Meditation

Crystal Formation

Our Energetic Body

Healing Crystals

11:30- 11:45 am Break

11:45-Noon – Attuning and Grounding

Noon-1:45pm

Choosing which crystal is right for you

Purification Process

Programming and Attuning Exercises

Chakras, Aura and Crystal Healing

Protecting and raising the vibes in your environment

1:45-2pm  Break

2-2:15 – Group Healing

2:15-3:30

Pendulum attunement

Crystal Grid(s) for your Home

Grids for Healing, Clearing, Love, Abundance and More

Body Healing Grid Work

3:30 – 4pm  Closing Ceremony and Q&A

Log-In Zoom 

Register NOW to get this entire program for $149 (until May 30th)

After May 30th – $222

If you can’t attend live  – don’t worry, this course will be recorded and you will have access to it whenever you like!

My personal journey of healing and revelation.
Shana Tova for those who are celebrating… Happy and healthy New Year!
Happy Harvest Moon!
Happy Fall Equinox!
Happy, Happy Fall 2018!

September is quite the busy month. I have been celebrating Re-births, Birthday’s, Anniversary’s, the New school year for the kids and crazy miracles this month. I have reunited with many old souls and friends that have guided me towards revelation.

Since April, I’ve taken some well needed space to reflect on the personal healing journey that I’ve been on. Integrating all that I have learned throughout this year; frankly since birth and my past lives has been quite the reward. Since I was a kid, I’ve been gifted with the ability to decode people’s purpose and path. I’ve perfected my own system that works and have become a Master in doing Destiny Sessions to guide people along their life’s journey. Yet, when it came to me, on a deeply personal level…emotions and responsibilities clouded my perception or I just simply ignored the signs because of my every day responsibilities and told myself – “I’ll get to me afterwards”.

I thought by having a ceremonial meditation practice every morning at 5am, morning kundalini, working out 3-5xs a week, walking out in nature, is Me giving time to Me. But it wasn’t enough.

In the past 6 months, I’ve been blessed to work with some of the world’s best healers. I’ve undergone one of the most profound spiritual and physical transformations in my life. Since April, my family has endured an event that in conclusion has shaken me to my core and has shifted my perceptions in a way that I will be eternally grateful for. During this time, I’ve been led by Spirit to see the true sequence of how healing transpires and who is there for me. It’s a process that I call AWAKEN.

When we go through a catastrophic event, a stressful trauma we may subconsciously feel like we are being neglected or punished by the Universe. We may not voice it, or we may think we’re “too spiritual” to admit it, but internally it’s there… let’s call a spade a spade… it’s basic subconscious human conditioning programming. For a moment…we ask WHY? Why did this happen to me, to them, to my loved ones? Asking questions is wonderful to do in self-inquiry work. However, when we begin questioning Why – we go into victim mode and in fear, right there at that moment we let go of our trust with, and in G-d and the Universal Source of Love.

Everything and everyone in this life is already destined for you. Trusting the process is the challenge, letting go of our tight grip so we don’t fall again, or to be humiliated or to fail or G-d forbid, being looked upon as some fraud is tough. It’s our perception that is our free will of how things should be. When we try to control certain outcomes, this is the actual moment in which we align ourselves with ego or aspects of our free will. Free will is all about choices. However, going with the flow, accepting what is, especially, when shit hits the fan, the times when we are the ones being threatened by an illness or a catastrophic event…it’s challenging! It’s tough to be in NAMASTE mode all the time, the state of love, roses, incense, acceptance and surrender. Especially when you know you’re in the path of your destiny where NOW is the BIG TEST. With this big test, there is a lot to lose and you’re certainly not finished with what you came here to finish. But trust me, when you finally do surrender in the process, it is the most beautiful, divine experience that you will ever feel.

My own ego got the best of me, for I thought I went through certain challenges in my journey earlier in my life, so I could do the work I came here to do NOW. However, the Universe had a different plan. And I kept on hearing the voice of my guides telling me, “Trust it”.

When we are constantly in a fight or flight mode, our parasympathetic nervous system and sympathetic nervous system conflict. Our conscious mind is always prepared to protect us and we can’t stay in the parasympathetic state for too long where our bodies really need to be to be at rest so we could recoup and heal.

Whenever I am channeling healings for others – we connect to Love and trust so the body could surrender and rest in the parasympathetic state. This is where and when the healing could occur. That’s where the miracles really happen This is why I love meditation and regression work so much, because I could go into that state and stay there for a long time.

Six months ago, my body went through a traumatic stress response that made me very lethargic and for the first time in a very long time I went to the Doctor. I don’t even have a primary care Dr., I went to an Integrative Specialist. Given a diagnosis that I choose not to name and feeling numb in certain areas of my body scared me. I shared with my husband and best friend, freaked out for a second, while they talked me off the ledge. I kept on asking myself, how could this be????? I am healer! This can’t be happening? I teach others to have faith and believe in their healing. I could see clearly in others where the root of their symptom first appeared and at that moment I couldn’t see it happening in my own body? When I’m working, I use my hands as healing tools as well as my intuitive force and heart centered love energy. Our bodies are always communicating with us and are trying to tell us what we must take care of NOW…it’s the old emotional imprints whether from this lifetime or past that get awaken by catalysts that we call everyday life. Something could have happened to us in a past life when we were in our 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, etc. and then SUDDENLY a physical response happens today, in 2018. Why??? Well, we live in a time in this New Age world where it’s acceptable to do past life regression and other healing modalities that we can’t scientifically see with our own eyes…but the results prove that spontaneous healing does exist. BTW – Regression was one major modality of how I healed this.

Didn’t want to believe the “diagnosis”, I began working with a functional doctor who guided me nutritionally. I didn’t think I was eating bad to begin with…. I am a chocoholic and love cheese – but give me a break. I don’t drink alcohol or smoke weed or do rec drugs…. I had no idea what I needed to remove. I had no idea I was inflamed with my petite structure. But certain body parts were telling me, screaming so loud – pay attention to me. I removed all wheats, oats, grains, sugars from my diet and detoxed my body under the Dr’s supervision. I meditated every day, like always, went into my infrared sauna 3 times a week, saw my reiki practitioner weekly, began to get massages, scheduled facials, scheduled “healing me time”. I booked bio-feedback sessions with an amazing practitioner and soul sister, Kelly. I didn’t do this alone, my husband who is amazingly supportive did the same just to be on my team – (the nutrition part – not the other stuff).

I shared my fear with just a few and journaled about all that I need to let go of. Now, I must really practice what I preach. I prayed for the right people, the truest people, the healers, the supporters, my tribe to show up for me and I was open to accept the healing. People who no longer were in my life – who left, left apparently, so I could make the space for this to happen. Meditating, getting to the root of the cause was more than a morning ritual, it was a morning, afternoon, and evening task. But I must admit, crazy thoughts (left door stuff) were going through my head at the same time. Knowing the Laws of the Universe, I was freaking myself out. I kept on saying to myself,” Janet, whatever you give power to, you will create, you know this! Choose Faith…Don’t be Scared”. “Whatever you resist, persists”. I downloaded the Heal documentary. I watched Bruce Lipton on You Tube at night before going to sleep, just to reiterate everything that I already know. My mantra was …. I am a healer, I am healed, every cell of my body is 100% healthy! This is not mine. But in the meantime, my own intuitive abilities with my healing practice with others was super fine tuned than ever. WTF!

In July, I traveled for a weekend healing retreat and reunited with some old souls. It was a feeling of familiarity, of knowing each other for lifetimes, it just felt like home. As soon as our eyes met it was soul recognition and we all knew that we came together at this moment in time to raise the consciousness and to heal one another. We became a trustful source for one another, a kindred connection that the Universe so beautiful orchestrated (btw – it was over a drawbridge, not kidding). And then the healing really began. My husband who never attended a retreat with me did for the first time. That was a such a gift and a token of his love for me. With his support and the love that I felt from him and the group, I surrendered and let go a lifetime emotional block that I thought was long gone. It happened right there, at that moment on a hammock near the lake….and then… more familiar souls and healers appeared for WHO??? For ME! My friend Erica who I met at a PLR training worked on me using a modality called Biofield Tuning. Kelly, who is an amazing bio feedback and light puncture therapist worked on me bi-weekly for the past 3 1/2 months. From the beautiful Michelle Blechner whom I had the honor of hosting an amazing Family Constellation event at my healing studio in NY, to my Dear friends and World Healers, Cecilia and Vivek Sharma that created a wonderful gift for me and my tribe, to the amazing Rob Wergin who apparently was with me back in April 2018 and in Ancient Egypt, to Dr. Brian Weiss and his beautiful daughter Amy that were all part of this journey. My sister, my best friends, Jackie and Suzanna….and most importantly, my soulmate, my husband who reminded me every second of the day how strong and powerful I am and how much I am loved and supported. I also have a group of an amazing tribe of women by my side helping me with my children (which I had to keep a poker face throughout). I really Thank you, Thank YOU! I accept this award for healing…I thank the Academy of Angels!!!! Thank you, ACADEMY of ANGELS!!!

We are all spiritual beings having a human experience. I intuitively knew that “something” would pop up during my early 40’s – wasn’t sure what it was going to be but it was imperative for my spiritual and emotional growth. I channel and heal from the Divine and now it was my turn to really dig deep and clear out any clutter to allow more Light and Love to come in. It’s a journey, y’all….and I’m all about sharing my emotional scars to help empower You in your path.

Never judge others for you never know what their inner struggles are like. Working with thousands of people, I probably know more family secrets than the Enquirer – but you know what? The truth really does heal… don’t get caught up on social media bullshit. It’s wonderful to keep in touch with old friends that way, but don’t compare the “luxurious” superficial lifestyle that many portray. The real richness is in the heart of people. I am grateful and appreciate the love that people share with me, their vulnerabilities, for that to me, reveals their beauty and strength. I am honored to do what I was put on the Earth to do and I intend to learn more everyday while cherishing every moment because in a split second, it could all change.

Because of my recent healing journey, another modality, that I will call AWAKEN has opened for me. I’m still integrating it all and of course, will share it with you in my workshops and individual sessions when I figure it all out.

The other day I was clearing out some files on my computer that I no longer need and I came across the sweetest 10 min video clip that my daughter took with her iPad when she was 6 and my little guy was 3. Both my husband and I never saw this video before. They were so little and super cute – but Wow, time really flies! I really don’t want to miss a thing in their childhood.

And then I thought about how I “Mom”…. At times, I feel like a fraud when I lose my sh*% and my patience when me and the kids have a disconnect. How could I teach mindfulness and meditation – when at times I, myself am not mindful and miss out on opportunities to connect with my own kids? I chose to work closely to where they are so I get to be with them every day – but am I really spending the quality mindful time that we both deserve and need?

Trying my best to be there for my kids in every way and leading by example, I chose a career or perhaps the career chose me that I could have both– work and family and to be close to home. It was my dream – and being a master manifestor that I am- I manifested everything that I ever dreamed of. I’m extremely blessed that I’m married to my best friend for over 20 years and that when we co-parent we’re usually on the same page. He helps me keep it all together. He’s my rock and my #1fan.

But, I must admit although, I may be mostly “at home” with them, I’m not always be mindfully present as much as I should be or make the opportunity to be. I’m working, cooking, laundry, driving them to football, basketball, etc….It’s rush, rush, rush to the next venue, the next sport, the next event. Also, may I add that these devices (IPhone, iPad) hijacked my time with them even in the car when we used to just chat about life. And I will take full responsibility for allowing those boundaries to slip….

You know what? I’m real – what you see is what you get and I will forgive myself for allowing slip-ups from time to time. There isn’t any sugarcoating bullshit associated with the work that I do and who I am. I’m 100% authentic and at times I may fail at proper mindful parenting in the way that I think it should be done and my crazy emotional reaction at times. But it’s ok – my kids know that they are loved and that they are supported.

Mindful parenting isn’t about being the perfect parent rather it’s being aware of the moment to moment. It’s savoring those special times. It’s about being able to catch our glitches and be responsible enough to make the decision to alter our behavior. We’re teaching our kids that we can make mistakes too and admit it to them, but in order to grow, we need to become consistent in our mindful practice of being caring, loving, and responsible role models for them and for ourselves. They are learning to be mindful future adults by our here and now, present examples. Life is now.

“Watch your thoughts, they become words;

watch your words, they become actions;

watch your actions, they become habits;

watch your habits, they become character;

watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

Here are a just a few tips

1. Mindful Communication

{without judgment}
In this house, we talk. During family meals, it is a rule, no devices during our meals together. Although the time may be short in comparison to all the hours in the day – 30-45 minutes per meal when we’re home. It’s important that we speak about anything. Sports, weather, school, we play the question game…. sometimes it’s silly, we’re laughing at each other…. sometimes we get at it and sometimes, someone is in a bad mood and an insult comes out – it’s family –it’s real.

But one thing is for sure, both my husband and I made it very clear that if the kids EVER have any questions or concerns or have anything to discuss that they could ALWAYS come to us without judgment. I rather them ask and speak with us then getting information from their friends or any outside sources. Outside sources aren’t accurate at times…it leaves the kids with their own opinions and conclusions on how life works. G-d granted me the blessing of these 2 kids and I will do my damn best to teach them with the resources that I have. Teach them the fundamentals of being a responsible adult that hopefully, in the future will lead them to make wise decisions.

Depending on the issue sometimes, my kids rather confide in their Dad and keep me out of the loop at times. Because they do know, I can react like Mama Bear…. Being an intuitive Mom – I could tune in to my children’s stories about what transpired during the day and see the truth in their surroundings. My instinct is to protect them, so sometimes, I react in an abrupt way of wanting them to get out of the situation ASAP so they don’t get hurt. But I get it…they need to learn, the way we all did.

If the kids feel that the communication and non-judgment line is open – the trust will always be there. And that’s a great foundation for future relationships with their future partners in life. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Words can’t not be taken back once they are said. These words stay with us for the rest of our lives and we are left in our own heads to figure and flow chart things out… it may not be accurate.It’s important to mindfully communicate with them so they get it. They may not understand the lesson right there and then, but hindsight 20/20 – one day they’ll get it. It’s important to set the communication mindful time every day so it gives everyone the opportunity to let go of any misunderstandings or things that no longer suit them. It’s clearing the vessel. Otherwise the baggage of misinterpretations and opinions become beliefs that could stay with them for life. It’s about building trust.

 

2. Mindfully in the MOMENT

Quality rather than quantity
One second!
Have you ever tallied up how many times you have said “one second” in one day?? Think about it… SO here we are, in the kitchen unloading the dishes from the dishwasher and our child asks us a question. “Mom, could you come here?” And what do we respond 90% of the time…”one second”. That “one second” isn’t really 1 second – it could turn into 5 minutes…perhaps 15….even more. NOT OK. I’m not saying to drop and run the moment our kids ask for our help. But if we are teaching them to be accountable with their words and their time, what kind of example are we teaching them if we aren’t following through with our words and time?Having said that, my kids hold me accountable –“Mom…you know it’s not going to be a second.”Grant, it if it’s an emergency – I drop everything and I run to them. But when I speak with them, I will directly have eye contact, no interruptions, and connect even if it’s for 5 minutes –it’s being in that moment that is rich.

We must be more mindful in creating time and space to really connect with our kids. When we are with them – Let go of the iPhone…the Instagram…the emails… Everything could wait. If the phone rings during our time with them…it could wait too. We don’t get these precious moments back EVER….EVER… It’s gone and before you know it…the kids will be off to college and they begin their adult life.

 

3. Mindfully Love

I LOVE YOU’s, Hugs and eye contact
There isn’t a day that should go by – even when you are super angry or disappointment in your kid that you should miss the opportunity to tell them that you love them. And not by just passing through the room in which they are in and just saying out loud “I Love YOU”. Which I do regardless, everyday. But what I do make a practice of – and it’s very natural for me – is to hug them every day, to kiss them every day and tell them how proud I am of the individuals that they are. How much I appreciate their hearts, their kindness. I tell them every day that they are beautiful or handsome. And when I do tell them – I look them right into their eyes. Because the eyes are the windows to the soul – and that soul connection is priceless. They feel it and they know it’s the truth.

 

4. Mindfully Social

GO outdoors – Devices kept to a minimum or a schedule.
The iPhone and iPad have become babysitters for so many. These days it seems that the kid’s social skills have become obsolete in comparison to when I was growing up. I just knew that If I wanted to see my friends we would have to both meet halfway and have some social conversational skills. Ring their doorbell…call them on the phone and actually have a conversation with their parents…” Hello Zena, this is Janet…How are you? Could I please speak with Jackie?” Social skills, manners…. hello?? The devices DO NOT teach manners. In fact, it teaches us to be caught up, sucked in, hooked in, in an unrealistic world of Instagram, twitter, Snap, Facebook….being concerned and addicted to other people’s posts rather than focusing on the gifts we have in front of us. We could even see it when we’re out and about at restaurants, parks, malls – the parents are on their phones texting connecting to others or totally checked out from their families and got sucked into cyberspace. It’s really an epidemic and super unhealthy and we’re teaching our kids that it’s ok to be rude and to check out just because we don’t’ want to be in that restaurant or playground…or wherever they took us. It’s really an obnoxious habit.

Teach them by example.
My husband and I have set rules that are very reasonable when it comes down to devices. (1) no devices during meal time, at restaurants, or at family functions (2) HW and responsibilities are done PRIOR (3) no devices at least 1 hour before bedtime. Kids need to unwind like we do and not need the noise from the social media – make believe world engulfing them.

 

5. Mindful Date Night

Set family date time – Schedule it in.
Creating mindful children is creating a caring and mindful family. I learn so much from my kids by just hanging out with them and listening to them. Their wit, their sense of humor, their wisdom. No matter where you are inthe world – what time zone you live in – this is super important. Since day 1 – we have 1 night that no matter what – we go out as family and date –and connect. Every week we take turns picking a different restaurant or an activity for us to do together…it doesn’t have to be fancy shmancy –it’s quality time and it’s priceless. My husband and I both have very busy schedules – but this is something that we never compromised about. Family date night feeds the soul. Not just for raising mindful kids, but for filling up our hearts with connection, love, caring, and laughter. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes, family date night turns into family debate night and arguments – but it’s healthy – we need to get our individual thoughts, our individual contributions out…. we’re all human. We’re social beings –this is teaching the kids the importance of tradition, the importance of connection and the importance of consistency. This is the glue that holds families together – schedule it in.

 

6. Mindfully Grateful

Practicing Gratitude, appreciation and good manners – Please and Thank You.
These days I’ve seen so much entitlement from young ones especially now that they are exposed to Youtube and other forms of media. They see what others “have” and they think it’s equals happiness. It’s just things – and things could be replaced. It isn’t true lasting joy.

One part, of being mindfully grateful is acknowledging others when they are being thoughtful or putting us before them. Acknowledgement is the first step to appreciation – but it order to acknowledge anything you must be mindful. The kids need to be awake -they need to be taught and to differentiate between kindness and generosity and doing something because it’s the right thing to do. You don’t get brownie points in life when you are just half assing it. It’s the true intention behind the gesture that matters. So, when other people do something for us – we know when it’s genuine or it’s just because. Just because doesn’t last. That’s just half-assing things and it’s not ok. Hold the door for someone because it’s kind not because you want to hear a thank you. And… also the idea of expectations that things would magically get replaced if not taken care properly when we have it. I could go on and on….

Teaching the children that most things in life are earned and can’t just be replaced by snapping your fingers is imperative. Same thing goes with respecting one another – Respect is something that children learn by mimicking their parents and their teachers – we are their first role models. We must show ourselves and others respect so the children could learn the true definition of respect. It’s important to remind them that things (clothes, games, items) could be replaced but you cannot replace people. For relationships to grow and to be healthy they need to be nourished, taken care of and paid attention to. Appreciation, gratitude, please and thank you – are probably one of the most important things you could teach your children. Both my husband and I were raised in humble homes…. we weren’t spoiled brats – and everything he and I have today it’s because we created it together – no one handed anything down to us. These kids need to know that to be mindfully successful – you need to be mindfully grateful always.

Blessings xx

Setting healthy energetic boundaries Guilt-free What a week I had! Today is the first day I feel like myself again.I feel like I had a fog lifted off my head and got my energy back. Being an empath, I feel and absorb what others are feeling. This week working in a school with over 200+ kids teaching meditation and mindfulness, seeing my 1:1 clients, teaching my own private kids and adult workshops, and handling my own personal endeavors…it was a very busy week. One in which I didn’t give myself the proper and well deserved time to love and recharge my energy. I didn’t realize that I was zapped.

Even those who don’t recognize the concept of being energetically zapped, somehow know that the people with whom we are surrounding ourselves with influence us. Positive/negative – its energy. Relationships are always an energy exchange. To stay feeling our best, we must ask ourselves: Who gives us positive energy? Who zaps it? It’s important to be surrounded by supportive, heart-centered people who make us feel safe and loved. It’s equally important to pinpoint the emotional vampires, who, whether they intend to or not, leech our energy and make us feel lethargic after connecting with them.

If after careful introspection we don’t discover traces of memories of our personal stories or other elements that could justify our sudden emotional shifts, it’s very likely it’s due to the negative energy of the person we talk to or surround ourselves with. It’s like entering a room full of smoke and then our clothes, our hair, our body absorbed that smell. Similarily, finding ourselves in the middle of emotional negativity we can we fill our minds up with worry and anxiety, unknowingly. When we’re breathing in strong scents, the body reacts by repelling them and preventing access to the respiratory tract. The way we get rid of the polluted energy is by coughing, clearing our throat, a rash, a pimple, tearing, etc. In energetic terms, the same happens when we are in contact with negative energy: it provokes an emotional and physical reaction that puts a strain on our entire being.

We know right away after spending some time with certain people if we feel happy and safe or the opposite, exhausted, drained and are in a bad mood. You may feel an emotional shift that just manifests itself as discomfort, frustration, anger, or combination of these not-so-pleasant emotions that seem to come out of nowhere.You know right away when you have absorbed some nonsense from others – when you say the words out loud, “I don’t feel like myself today”. BAM – those are the magic words that validate, that the energy on you, within you, isn’t yours. It doesn’t belong to (go back to your owner ______).

To stay feeling our best, we must ask ourselves: Who gives us positive energy and feeds our soul? Who takes it away knowingly or unknowingly? It’s important to be surrounded by loving, heart-centered people who make us feel safe and secure and allow us to resonate in our true selves. It’s just as important to pinpoint the emotional vampires, who, whether they intend to or not, grab on to us and leech our energy.

They can appear like a wolf in sheep’s clothing, in fact, even when a person appears to be kind and sweet, they can emanate negative energy.You’re not inside their heads to read what’s really going on in there.

There are different kinds of energy vampires…. I’m just going to name a few popular ones that I’m certain we could all relate to. First, there are the victim vampires, who always complain about everyone else, the weather, themselves, their partners, their lack of anything and how the Universe is conspiring solely against them – and no one else. Then, there are the jealous vampires who compare themselves to others and when they look at you, something about you reminds them of everything that they “think” they lack in their lives and that it’s “unfair”. Now, let me present, the nasty criticizer vampire…who walks around with their microscope waiting for you to f*#! up and throw it in your face. Or perhaps criticize your looks, your choices… your life. You know the ones, that come up to you after not seeing you for years and tell you “Wow, you look like you added a few pounds (looong pause) oh, but it looks so good on you.” Just kindly respond back to them, “thank you darling…. I’m so happy you care so much about me to notice.” How about the vampire who is a narcissist bully that makes you believe you’re unworthy and unlovable and that you don’t deserve better? Have you seen the 1944 movie, Gaslight? It’s about a complete narcissist husband who manipulates his wife to think she’s going crazy. Next, the Drama Queen…or Drama King...who with their crazy up and down antics can put you on overload of OMG’s and “You can’t believe what happened again!” They exaggerate minor incidents and make them off-the-charts dramas. Then, there is the “scapegoater” AKA the blamer vampire –who’s hands are always clean and it’s everyone else’s fault. They’re always the innocent bystanders and complain about everyone and everything. And then, we must not forget about the emotional blackmailer who will make you feel guilty and talk you into something that you know isn’t OK and doesn’t resonate with your soul but you still do it, because you “feel bad”. And then at the end of these meetings, situations, whatever it was, you’re the one feeling drained, tired, weak, lethargic, depressed, have a fear of asserting yourself, zapped, etc… Now, c’mon!

Here’s the deal…, here’s the method how these sneaky energetic mofo vampires work. They go in for the kill by stirring up your emotions. They KNOW exactly which buttons to push to throw you off your center, they go for your Achilles heel. They know what your weakness is. They will take advantage of your kindness…and if you’re an empath like me…we’re most susceptible. If you’re under the weather, or had one cocktail too many, or smoke, etc… you’re susceptible as well. Your energetic field is weaker if you are surrounding yourself in unhealthy environments and putting toxic substances in your body. Also, certain emotional states can increase everyone’s vulnerability as well, meaning if we just experienced a shock in our system; i.e., grief or trauma.

I’ve seen and heard many cases of people who complain that they suspect someone is stealing their energy and this person could very well be a family member, a friend, a colleague and so on. When this person is around you may feel weak, angry, upset, not at ease in your own skin and, this feeling of discomfort may spread from your persona to your everyday life, filling it with negativity. It becomes a vicious cycle…and then we feel weak and we feel like nothing is working for us. We are energetic beings and when we accumulate so much negative energy from surrounding people we can get sick. You can actually feel it right away in your physical body – it hits you right in the center of your chest – right in between the 4th and the 5th chakra. And then it could move down to your 3rdchakra – your solar plexus, abdomen…it’s that gut feeling.

Here are just a few steps to set healthy energetic boundaries.

Step 1

Notice how you feel.

Focus on the way you feel when you are around that certain individual. Journaling helps…when we journal it keeps a tally of our emotions and mental being daily. So, when we are surrounding ourselves in different situations with different people, journaling could help us distinguish or narrow down who the catalyst is. Feel the discomfort and embrace it. We learn through contrast. This is the first step to set an energetic boundary and find yourself back again. By ignoring the signs, we won’t know what the root cause is. You can notice your own feelings and emotions through a meditative state or just focusing on yourself, spending time alone in nature.

Step 2

Practice detachment and learn to say NO.

It’s ok to say NO without guilt especially if you don’t feel good when you’re around certain people or situations. For me, although I’m super social, I need my space and time to recharge my energy in social functions. Being an empath, I feel layers of emotional energy from everyone and the places I’m in. I always need my own transportation whenever I’m attending an event and won’t depend on others for a ride. After teaching a lecture, it’s important for me to engage in solo time afterwards. I always end with a Q&A session but speaking one on one afterwards to my audience members becomes energetically challenging for me so I don’t do it anymore. Most of the time, I’m channeling in my lectures so once I close out the session –it’s closed… and I need to recharge my energy back. Instead, now I ask that my clients, if they choose to, to book a private session with me at their own time. No guilt anymore and it’s a win-win for everyone. Detachment is not an intellectual concept. Try to see “them”, the emotional vampires in an objective point of view. When we’re IN it –engulfed in the situation it’s hard to separate fact from fiction. We are too concerned with the nature of the characters and how they are making us feel. Make believe you’re an eagle and watch the situation from a bird eye’s view. Or you could make believe you’re watching a movie and it’s the part when the emotional vampire tries to get its prey. Watch or imagine yourself getting out of the situation safely, without judgement, and no guilt. It’s very easy once you practice it regularly. This technique helps, I call it detachment training. It trains our minds from engaging in the existential dramas of the lives of others. And not allowing their issues to become our issues.

Step 3

Not feeling sorry while detaching.

To understand the difference between detachment and altruism. There are often those who react indignantly and protest: “Why should I keep my distance and detach? I’m someone who cares about others and want to help and heal people? This does not mean that you don’t care about others or that you’re selfish. But you can’t help others if you’re feeling drained all the time. Put yourself first without guilt. You can’t pour from an empty cup, my love. Of course, when you try to help someone that you love, you always try to do your best, but it must be done without guilt even if you don’t get the desired result that you both were looking for. Let go of the feeling sorry stuff. If the phone rings and it’s that victim energy vampire again… you could pick up the phone and tell them kindly, “Our relationship is important to me, but it’s not working if you’re going to keep feeling sorry for yourself and just constantly complain. I can only listen for few minutes… unless you’re ready to discuss solutions.” I do have to warn you…they won’t take you seriously the first time…. you must be consistent and get ready to be guilt-tripped – big time – (a.k.a. the emotional blackmailer). If the energy vampire victim, comes back with disappointment “What kind of friend are you?” Don’t fall into that trap. Just reply, “I’m a great friend and I love you, but this is all I can offer.”Peace out!

Step 4

Stop trying to people please and take it one step at the time –healthy detachment.
Don’t be a goodie-two-shoes and try to force yourself on others by being a people pleaser. Sometimes it’s habitual, we may have learned it from our parents or our teachers that we must sacrifice our own happiness to make sure everyone else is happy. Doing everything for everyone and not for yourself isn’t going to get you the POTY (Person of the Year) award. Respect yourself and respect other people’s boundaries when trying to help. You can’t force a person to accept help, even though you know how amazing it could be. A person has their free will to choose. I remember when I wanted to help an elderly woman who was walking with a cane across a city street in Manhattan and she swung her cane and almost cracked it over my head. You could ask someone if they need your help but don’t intrude into their space because you think that they are incapable. It’s hard to do, especially if you are so used to being there for everyone. You know what they say when we’re in an aircraft… put the oxygen mask on yourself before putting in on others. We must love & save ourselves first before we could save others. That’s the way you will retain your energy – otherwise you will be the ONE running on fumes… and it will eventually catch up with you. One step at a time, every day until it becomes a habit. You, first, and then you will gradually develop an armor that you will be able to maintain without effort.

Step 5

Avoid gossip and protect your sensitivity.
Mind your business and avoid gossip. Gossip really drains your energy. The gossipee is just as guilty as the gossiper. Pay attention to excessive involvement in other people’s lives. We want to live and lead by example and lift each other up. Gossipers get so much satisfaction regarding other people’s struggles. When someone confides in us it’s important to remain in integrity with that. Never make your self-worth dependent on other people’s opinions. Don’t get caught in the trap of always trying to connect and please a fellow energy vampire by listening to the stories that they want to share about others. Refrain from confiding your deepest feelings to someone who won’t cherish them. Learn to distinguish the sincere to the not so sincere.

Step 6

Create the time to spend alone and with loved ones.
Make it a daily practice. Connecting with others is fundamental for a complete and productive life but it’s important to spend some solo time alone. It’s in the mere silence when we hear the voice of God speak to us. And that’s when we get all the answers that we need. I know the word busy very well…I’m an entrepreneur, a healer, a mom, a friend, a wife…I run a clean and warm household and a heart based business. But one thing is for sure if I don’t put aside time for ME everyday – I’m doing myself, and everyone else, who depends on me a disservice. Every day I wake up at 5 am, I journal, meditate, work-out and begin my clearing work for the clients that I will be seeing that day. If I don’t do this, I feel weak and become more susceptible for energy vampires.

Plan at least one complete afternoon or an evening with people who give off positive energy and avoid the drainers. Notice how this beneficially affects your physical and emotional well-being. It’s soul food.

Visualization Exercise

Here is a little exercise you could do to protect your energy field. Just make sure you are well hydrated with H2O. You will use your own subtle energy as a shield. I always call upon Archangel Michael to help me and protect my energy field.

In the am after your daily routine/meditation…. First center yourself, say 5 factual (not opinion) things about you and then take several deep breathes (slowly inhale – hold and slowly exhale – hold through the nose). Breathe in white light and exhale any energy that no longer suits you. Picture a white light coming in from the top of your head going all the way down to the soles of your feet cleansing away any darkness or negativity. Just imagine or perceive it. Then feel the negativity coming out through your feet just like a tennis ball onto the ground and transmuting into Mother Earth into white light.

Next, imagine yourself enveloped in a cocoon of white or golden light. Picture, it as a shield forming a failsafe barrier around every inch of you, a covering that stops you from being harmed. It’s semi-permeable, allowing what’s beautiful and positive in, but keeping negativity out. Make sure the top of your head is covered and the soles of your feet are covered as well.

You have just created a simple energy shield. It doesn’t numb you out so you don’t what’s going on around you – it just simply protects you so you don’t feel suffocated with other people’s negative vibes and thoughts.

Practice your awareness. And be true to yourself. It’s all good.

Blessingsxx

Affirmations: The Law of Attraction

Clearing the slate for it to really work Love yourself, they say…. and Love will come right back to you Ok …. but how? When I’m amid a private session with someone who has tried to use the law of attraction and affirmations for years and it hasn’t been working for them – you could imagine the sense of frustration. As they open their heart to me and begin to run down their list of 10,000 things that they have been putting out in the Universe and how they do so much for everyone and everything…yet, they themselves still feel empty? Why? Why haven’t they met their soulmate yet? Why aren’t they abundantly rich beyond imagination? Why aren’t they fulfilled? WHY??? One of my clients, who btw, I adore very much, was super frustrated and doubted the spiritual law of attraction. “Janet, really does this even work?” she stated with an underlying tone of impatience, discouragement and conviction. “I have been affirming every single day the same statement for months…”I AM HAPPILY IN LOVE WITH MY SOULMATE”, “I AM ABUNDANT AND LOVE MY CAREER”, “I COULD FIT INTO MY SKINNY JEANS AND I LOOK AND FEEL AMAZING”……“

Please tell me why, this has happened yet?” (imagine her eyes really wide open).

OK, let’s just settle down for a moment…. let’s breathe, relax, take a sip of water. Just chill out…for a moment. If you’re driving the car 70 miles’ p/h on a 35-mph zone you will, for sure, without a doubt, miss some of the most important turns and paths in your life because you’re so focused on getting to the finish line. Your life is not a race…this is not a competition. As Theodore Roosevelt once said, “competition is the thief of joy”.We each have our own distinctive destiny path. For us to achieve everything that we came here to do on this planet Earth…we need to slow the f*@! down and match the vibration of our desires and necessities. BAM!

So why don’t affirmations work right away? (time and space)

When our true emotions don’t match up to our exterior world–it’s not going to happen. If deep inside we feel less than or undeserving – and at the same time, we’re expecting the world to give us all the gifts, joy, and love in the Universe, it’s just not going to happen that way. Try putting a square peg into a round hole. Have you heard of the fake it till you make it theory?It does work… but only at times when you need courage or when you need to step up your game and stand up for something that you deserve and believe in. But if inside your mind and heart, you feel inadequate or less than, and you still quite don’t understand why you don’t have your castle and kingdom and your knight men working for you – it’s time for you to finally realize that you are already ENOUGH. You’re not missing anything outside yourself…everything else in life are just bonuses. When you finally realize that you have been feeding the Universe lies, your doubts, uncertainties, and mixed signals out there for soooo long, you will feel disempowered. Why? For what? You must admit that you haven’t been giving yourself the credit that you deserve, the pat on the back, the hey, “you’re amazing and fabulous”. The Universe doesn’t know what to gift you or give you because when it IS right in front of you…you’re too busy speeding onto the next thing, that you’re missing it. Or perhaps you are so full of doubts that there isn’t any room for the desires to manifest. TRUST – trust in yourself – TRUST in the process.

How to properly affirm and use the law of attraction to your benefit.

1. SLOW DOWN – Patience, my love. Practice it daily… especially with yourself. We all fall sometimes and make mistakes…it’s alright…we don’t have to consistently beat the crap out of ourselves days, weeks, or even years later. The Universe only responds to your present emotions. If something that hurt you happened years ago and you are still not ok with it years later…perhaps seeking a qualified therapist would help. But if you have done that already and worked it through and are still reminiscing of the time of the bad breakup – or the time you wore your heart on your sleeve and it was crushed…. Well, perhaps it’s time to close that chapter in a healthy and forgiving way. The Universe has no idea if the situation happened a second ago or 10 years ago…and the world is truly your mirror – it will mimic everything you feel inside…. trust ME. – Try a cord cutting session – it aids the process.

2. Forgiveness – forgive yourself and others. Don’t hold onto grudges. When you forgive someone, you are not enabling them or approving of their behavior if they mistreated you or if you witnessed bad behavior. You are just setting yourself free from any binds or attachments that aren’t healthy between you and the other person(s). Everyone in our lives came here to teach us something…forgiveness is one of those huge human lessons. It’s a difficult one, but when you really, really, truly forgive, it’s the most liberating feeling ever. It feels like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders…and this may be exactly what you need to begin on your affirmation(truth) journey. Make that SPACE!

3. Purification – Surround yourself with healthy foods, healthy people, and healthy thoughts. It’s great to cleanse your body with juice fasts, whole
foods, but it’s just as important to cleanse out past subconscious programs of negative self-talk, criticism, the I’m not good enough subconscious programs that you are repeating over and over to yourself and to others. Hypnotherapy helps a great deal – but just by acknowledging the negative habits and realizing that you have a choice to choose between healthy and toxic, really makes a difference. Eliminate your exposure to negative situations, toxic people and unhealthy environments that no longer suit you. It just stands in your way of your happiness.Stop trying to fill the happiness void with temporary vices. It only going to distract you just for a mere moment. Surround yourself with good role models and nurturing souls.

4. Self-Love…what does that mean exactly? Do you have a morning ritual? Or does your alarm go off about 5:30 am and you press snooze about 15 times and get up 7 am – brush your teeth, shower, get dressed, go about your day…and hope that today will BE THE DAY that your affirmations will finally come true????? Self-Love comes from a place of realization that you are responsible for your own happiness and no one is going to fulfill that void except for YOU. No one. We all look for love outside of our own hearts…in our partners, our teachers, our parents, but in reality – what we’re looking for, we already possess. How about this? In the morning – wake up …. get centered, meditate and set an intention for your day. Even by acknowledging 5 facts about ourselves will center us right away. You say you don’t have enough time to do this? Respect yourself enough to give yourself that time. Aren’t you looking for a partner that will treat you with respect…then it’s time to treat yourself the way you want other to treat you. Which leads me to #5….

5. The world is your mirror. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you. Tell yourself that you Love yourself every single day. Look in the mirror in your beautiful eyes, look at your fabulous self and appreciate that you were given a chance to create a wonderful miracle today.

6. Kindness – be kind to yourself. Treat yourself the way you would treat anewborn baby or your new little puppy. Do something kind for others…it feels wonderful. Not because you are going to get the same karma in return, just because. Kindness and generosity goes a long way – it shows that we aren’t stingy with our hearts and it begins to open us up for prosperity to come in. What prosperity really is, is good health, happiness, balance, amazing relationships, and everything else that makes your soul joyful.

7. Connect to Your Inner Child. Go back to your vast childhood imagination. If you’re my age – we didn’t have smart phones – We were playing outside in front of our homes until the street lights would come on – that’s how we knew it was dinner time. I was a kid when ATARI and Sega Genesis just came out and that was a big deal. Go back to thetime when you were a child playing “house” with your siblings or your friends. Remember how fun it was to act out in a role that you all collectively made up. As a kid, you used your imagination so freely and played the part out with all your heart. Do it again…Feel what it would feel like to affirm something that your heart is opened to…fearlessly.

8. Invest in a journal or index cards and begin writing your affirmation as if you already achieved it. Feel it in every molecule of your body…. and feel the celebration in your soul and just imagine for a moment how itwould feel to achieve it. You could begin in baby steps…but now that you cleared the slate a little bit, you finally made space for theaffirmations to have some workspace. Begin with 4-6 affirmations and say them every day with conviction… I keep mine in a cute little index card case and take them out from time to time during the day.

9. Appreciation – be grateful for everything that you have achieved in your life, thus far. Gratitude and appreciation makes more space for affirmation to come in and become your reality. Try it and watch how it all begins to unfold!

Here are 101 affirmations from The Pioneer of Love Yourself, The Affirmation Queen, the Honorable Louise HayThe below was taken from her website http://www.louisehay.com/

Let’s affirm:

1. Life loves me!
2. All is well in my world. Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of this situation only good will come. I am safe!
3. It’s only a thought, and a thought can be changed.
4. The point of power is always in the present moment.
5. Every thought we think is creating our future.
6. I am in the process of positive change.
7. I am comfortable looking in the mirror, saying, “I love you, I really love you.”
8. It is safe to look within.
9. I forgive myself and set myself free.
10. As I say yes to life, life says yes to me.
11. I now go beyond other people’s fears and limitations.
12. I am Divinely guided and protected at all times.
13. I claim my power and move beyond all limitations.
14. I trust the process of life.
15. I am deeply fulfilled by all that I do.
16. We are all family, and the planet is our home.
17. As I forgive myself, it becomes easier to forgive others.
18. I am willing to let go.
19.Deep at the center of my being is an infinite well of love.
20. I prosper wherever I turn.
21. I welcome miracles into my life.
22. Whatever I need to know is revealed to me at exactly the right time.
23. I am loved, and I am at peace.
24. My happy thoughts help create my healthy body.
25. Life supports me in every possible way.
26. My day begins and ends with gratitude.
27. I listen with love to my body’s messages.
28. The past is over.
29. Only good can come to me.
30. I am beautiful, and everybody loves me.
31. Everyone I encounter today has my best interests at heart.
32. I always work with and for wonderful people. I love my job.
33. Filling my mind with pleasant thoughts is the quickest road to health.
34. I am healthy, whole, and complete.
35. I am at home in my body.
36. I devote a portion of my time to helping others. It is good for my own health.
37. I am greeted by love wherever I go.
38. Wellness is the natural state of my body. I am in perfect health.
39. I am pain free and totally in sync with life.
40. I am very thankful for all the love in my life. I find it everywhere.
41. I know that old, negative patterns no longer limit me. I let them go with ease.
42. In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete. 43. I trust my intuition. I am willing to listen to that still, small voice within.
44. I am willing to ask for help when I need it.
45. I forgive myself for not being perfect.
46. I honor who I am.
47. I attract only healthy relationships. I am always treated well.
48. I do not have to prove myself to anyone.
49. I come from the loving space of my heart, and I know that love opens all doors.
50. I am in harmony with nature.
51. I welcome new ideas.
52. Today, no person, place, or thing can irritate or annoy me. I choose to be at peace.
53. I am safe in the Universe and All Life loves and supports me.
54. I experience love wherever I go.
55. I am willing to change.
56. I drink lots of water to cleanse my body and mind.
57. I choose to see clearly with the eyes of love.
58. I cross all bridges with joy and ease.
59. I release all drama from my life.
60. Loving others is easy when I love and accept myself.
61. I balance my life between work, rest, and play.
62.I return to the basics of life: forgiveness, courage, gratitude, love, and humor.
63. I am in charge, I now take my own power back.
64. My body appreciates how I take care of it.
65. I spend time with positive, energetic people.
66. The more peaceful I am inside, the more peace I have to share with others. 67. Today is a sacred gift from Life.
68. I have the courage to live my dreams.
69. I release all negative thoughts of the past and all worries about the future.
70. I forgive everyone in my past for all perceived wrongs. I release them with love.
71. I only speak positively about those in my world. Negativity has no part in my life.
72. We are all eternal spirit.
73. I act as if I already have what I want—it’s an excellent way to attract happiness in my life.
74. I enjoy the foods that are best for my body.
75. My life gets better all the time.
76. It is safe for me to speak up for myself.
77. I live in the paradise of my own creation.
78. Perfect health is my Divine right, and I claim it now. 79.I release all criticism.
80. I am on an ever-changing journey.81.I am grateful for my healthy body. I love life.
82. Love flows through my body, healing all dis-ease.
83. My income is constantly increasing.
84. My healing is already in process.
85. There is always more to learn.
86. I now live in limitless love, light, and joy.
87. I become more lovable every day.
88. It is now safe for me to release all of my childhood traumas and move into love.
89. I deserve all that is good.
90. I am constantly discovering new ways to improve my health.
91. Love is all there is!
92. Mis easy when I love and accept myself.
95. I have the perfect living space.
96. I have compassion for all.
97. I trust the Universe to help me see the good in everything and in everyone. 98. I love my family members just as they are. I do not try to change anyone. 99. There is plenty for everyone, and we bless and prosper each other.
100. I love and approve of myself. 101.Life is good, and so it is!Blessings xx

“Coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous” – Albert Einstein

Ahhh synchronicity – how I love thee…

Déjà vu – what is this exactly? Have you ever found yourself in a place or situation where it struck such a sense of familiarity? You tell yourself…” I think I was here before…maybe, I dreamt about this”. And then you suddenly remember what will happen next. For a split second you become Agatha, the pre-cog from the movie Minority Report. It’s always something minuet – nothing of what we would consider of too much importance. It occurs when we’re food shopping or pulling up to a gas station…. just simple everyday tasks. De ja vu doesn’t happen when we are amid a huge important life decision in our lives. It a subtle occurrence – however, you need be awake to connect the dots.

Déjà vu is the memory of your soul’s movie – your destiny’s matrix of your life that you agreed upon. Prior to coming onto Planet Earth, we meet with our guides and we agree upon the lessons, the main theme and the souls that will be playing a significant role in our lives. We choose our parents, our siblings, our best friends, our pets, our living environments, schooling, etc. And now you ask….”is it all predestined? Well yes, for the most part it is – but we do have free will at ALL times to make the right decision for our soul’s growth. Looking back of all the decisions that you made, good ones, not so good ones, perhaps even huge debaco’s; we’ve benefited more from the struggles than the easy breezy ones. The difficult decisions are the ones that help us to move out of comfort zones to help us grow. It’s painful at first, it’s scary…and takes great courage. The first few steps are the most challenging. But hindsight 20/20….looking back –aren’t you grateful for all the prior bumps in your road?

You are exactly where you need to be in your life right here, right now.

The time of our meeting with our guides, when we are energetically shown our “life movie”, it is given to us in different vibrations, the highs, the lows, the pick-me-uppers. It’s kind of like a song, where there is a verse, a chorus, and a bridge that connects the two together. There some hip hop, some house music, rock music, and then there is meditation, chill music…. Our guides have orchestrated this awesome DJ collaborated piece and we have woven this beautiful musical into our lives.

So, what exactly happens? …. we see this musical…. we can agree or perhaps even disagree with what’s best for our higher purpose and then once we reach a collaborative agreement…. we sign our Spiritual Soul Name on the gold sparkled dotted line. And then BOOM…. Yep…we did it…. we chose another interesting life, another body, perhaps even another gender from before, we made an agreement with souls from our karmic family how and when we will meet…and we’re about to get packing. We know the beginning, the middle, and we know the end. Our guides let us know, “Don’t worry, Janet, I got your back at all times…. just make sure you ask us for help when and if you need.”- this is mucho important. WE MUST ASK our guides if we need help. Our free will is sacred and they can’t overstep their boundaries without our permission. More on this on my other blog….” How to connect, communicate, and embrace with our guides”.

So here we go along the path of our beautiful soul’s musical…. we’re born… and then a part of this prior memory of our soul contract gets erased…WHY??? Well you if had all the answers, life would not be so interesting…Imagine knowing everything that will happen at every single moment of our lives, you would never pass any soul exams in life and would have to do a re-do, you may get left back. As an intuitive, my job is to guide you to the tools that you already possess, not to give you all the answers…. My gift is showing you, your own personal way of removing all the layers of the fog so get back on that path that yours! I’ll be cheering you on.

So, when you do go along your path and you get a brief glimpse of a familiar feeling that you were here before…know that this is, simply, validation that you are on the right path and the right moment of your life. Everything that you have chosen, flow charted in your life directed you to this moment. This is your guides subtle way of showing you a movie clip…a piece of the trailer of your life. Breathe…. Life is what you make it – and Life is NOW.

Blessings xx